We've all heard the saying that time heals all wounds.
Time certainly heals many wounds, especially physical wounds. The human body is remarkably resilient.
Emotional wounds, however, are stubbornly resilient themselves and can reside for years, even decades. These wounds often are the core issues that lead to addiction or other undesirable behavior.
Going through addiction rehab and recovery is never easy.
Those suffering from alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling or some other addictive behavior must often grapple with trauma and hurt to discover underlying core issues which led to the addiction. This is the hard work that begins after medical detox, which deals with physical symptoms, not underlying core issues.
When love is applied to hurt, healing takes place.
This is the foundation of the Spiritual Psychology approach. This approach differs from other psychological approaches that believe healing takes place when hurt feelings are brought to the surface. This is partially right. The hurt feelings must be expressed in order to get issue resolution.
But abandoning somebody in mid-process can lead to re-traumatization. Spiritual Psychology completes the healing process by working with hurt feelings in a loving and tender way.
Additional action must be taken once the hurt surfaces in order to heal. Spiritual Psychology takes this action thoroughly and completely.
Applying Love to the Hurt
Though it sounds simplistic, applying love to the hurt is revolutionary in regards to issue resolution.
Often this hurt has been festering in the sub-consciousness for years. Spiritual Psychology borrows many mainstream psychology approaches to locate deep emotional issues, many of which have happened in childhood.
The beauty of this approach is riding the emotion back in time to the very first recollection of a traumatic experience.
Once this is healed, everything similar throughout one's life is also healed! Ordinary people can be trained to become proficient with its use and they can master it.
Anger - Hurt - Loving = Healing
Underneath anger there is always hurt, underneath hurt there is always loving.
Anger is basically the shield to our inner pain. Since we were very young we have used anger to shield ourselves from our hurt.
The way out is to give the anger a voice and apply love to it. At this point the anger dissipates and we drop into the hurt. We are then able to apply love to the hurt and we heal. The model looks like this:
The key is working through the model and remaining with the hurt. The untrained person will naturally shift to anger or anxiety to avoid feeling the hurt. Our job is to support the participant to stay with the hurt and process the issues around it. As they gain experience in doing this, the approach can be mastered.
It is a Myth That Time Heals All Wounds
Hurt feelings just don’t go away. It is a myth that time heals emotional wounds. Many wounds are left untreated for years, decades. Just because time passes does not mean these wounds have been resolved and healed.
Healing the underlying core issues that cause the undesirable behavior is the goal. A big part of the process is understanding and working with the Anger, Hurt, Loving Model.
Learn how to heal these old issues for the last time and live more of your life in love, peace, harmony and joy. Let us be your guide.
About The Clearing
The Clearing is a residential treatment center located on beautiful San Juan Island, Washington. We created The Clearing in response to the pervasiveness of treatment centers that focus more on luxury than modern, evidence-based therapy.
Our approach is based on healing the underlying core issues that cause addiction. If you'd like to learn more, contact us, or download our free eBook: